“A baby expects to be soothed, but a mature adult soothes themselves.” – Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
Emotional maturity in a sense comes with age, but it does not grow as our physical body does. It is something which comes with learning from experience and interaction with other people. Understanding your own emotions is as important as understanding the emotions of others.
What is Emotional Maturity?
Emotional Maturity is the ability to interact with other people without succumbing to behaving negatively according to how we feel. When children don’t get their way, they can be prone to behaving in a manner such as sulking.
This is quite normal behaviour for a child as he does not understand the implications of the emotions he feels nor the appropriate response. However, when an adult behaves in this same manner, this in the eyes of many people is unacceptable as it portrays the adult as an emotionally immature person.
Emotions are valid. They tell us something about the moment we are experiencing. The way we choose to express our emotions defines whether we are emotionally mature or not.
On a personal level, individuals who are emotionally mature tend to exhibit the following skills and abilities:
- Are well balanced in whatever they do
- Follow through even difficult tasks
- Base decisions on factual information rather than always giving into their feelings impulsively
- Are generally honest and live according to their value system
- Know what they want and plan out their actions accordingly with patience and perseverance
- Take a genuine interest in other people
- Ability to understand the moods of other people and be cooperative with them – use teamwork effectively
- Ability to think before taking action – rather than act impulsively
- Take responsibility for their actions and accept criticism without blaming or becoming defensive
- Ability to analyse and let go of the past as well as then making the necessary changes needed to improve themselves
- Ability to admit to having made a mistake by saying “sorry.”
When adults begin to behave in an emotionally mature way, it is a sign that they have finally grown up. These mature types of adults use their senses, not only for themselves but to keep abreast of the feelings of those around them too.
It is hard to analyse your own emotional maturity, but one sure sign of emotional immaturity is if people begin to avoid interaction with you or are unable to approach you.
People are generally able to speak to an emotionally mature individual without feeling the need to dress up their story. If you are approachable you are probably displaying signs of emotional maturity anyway.
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