Difference between Love and Lust

Love and lust are often mistaken as being interchangeable emotions. But there are some very important differences which distinguish them apart. Although lust is an important element needed in small doses to grow love, in extreme cases lust can become an obsessive trait. In such circumstances, although lust is a compliment to the person you desire, it becomes a nightmare when the other person does not desire or want this attention.

Quite simply the strong emotion of love reflects a more caring attitude and is a deep feeling of affection whereas lust is a desire especially of a sexual nature.

The following chart Image shows the difference between like, love, lust and obsession and is from thoughtcatalog.com

Like Love Lust Obsess Chart

Like Love Lust Obsess Chart

The chart below from www.diffen.comshows the basic differences between Love and Lust:

Comparison Chart



Definition A decision to commit oneself to another and to work through conflicts instead of giving up. Any intense desire or craving for gratification; when contrasted with love, lust usually means sexual desire.
Associated with Physical chemistry over a fairly long period of time. Physical chemistry over a short or medium period of time.
Sub-Categories Intimacy, commitment, security, the desire to please and help the other person. Sexual desire.
Symptoms Faithfulness, loyalty, confidence. Willingness to make sacrifices for another. Working at settling differences. Able to compromise so that either both win or at least give the other person’s opinion a chance. Desire, passion, acquisitiveness, intense emotions.
Person to Person Commitment to another. Genuine intentions. Think about other person’s feelings before acting. Enjoyment of a short-term, mutually pleasurable relationship.
Feels like A deep affection, contentment, confidence. Partners communicate and negotiate appropriate expectations. Requires a lot of selflessness and polite assertiveness. You are loving your best friend. Passion, joyousness, strong desire, intense and sometimes difficult feelings of need.
Result Security, peace, a solid partnership which can provide the ideal atmosphere to raise confident secure children. Unsatisfied lust results in sexual frustration, increased religiosity and superstition, emotional rigidity. Lust satisfied in a mutually beneficial way results in pleasure, creativity, passion, zest for life.
Effect Contentment, stability. fire, drive, activeness.
Interdependency Partnership. Can lead to codependency if not tempered with self-awareness and self-guidedness. Often the first stage of love, and can lead to lasting friendships, romantic or otherwise. When not tempered with compassion and empathy, however, it can lead to emotionally damaging behavior.
Time Period It will deepen with the passsage of time. Highly variable — it may deepen or dissipate with the passage of time.
Commitment This is permanent commitment and stays throughout the life. Temporary commitment that last only long enough to fulfill desire.
Bottom Line Love is unconditional and the real deal. Interested in only what can be done for self-pleasure; lust may develop into love, but it is lust until that time.

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