Power of Thoughts

What we are today comes from our thoughts of yesterday, and our present thoughts build our life of tomorrow: Our life is the creation of our mind...” 

Buddha

A single thought can be the most powerful force to influence the core of our very being. Thoughts convey messages in our head and in turn affect our feelings and emotions. The knock on effect is of course, that our behaviour is based on how we feel. The root of all our behaviour is basically our thoughts.

Thoughts determine who we are.

Thoughts certainly determine who we are and as Buddha said, much like many other wise people, it is thoughts which lead us to where we currently are. It is a simple formula really, if you think about something and dwell on, it’s like wishful thinking, and it really does manifest itself into reality.

This is why it is important to understand the underlying aspects affecting our way of thinking. The way we were brought up and the people who influenced us when we were impressionable have left a legacy in the way that we currently think.

An example of this is if your caregiver was always frustrated when something went wrong and would vent and rage, then it is likely you may have picked up on this way of coping with your problems.

But rest assured that there is a way of altering your negative thoughts. It’s simply a matter of you are or who you think you are. For example, if you feel scared, you will appear scared to others. If you are confident on the inside, you will appear confident on the outside too. People will be able to see your confidence shining through.

Try to alter the state of your negative thoughts by:

  1. Making a list of what bothers you the most and then dealing with them by talking yourself through the problems.
  2. Turning the negative words into the opposite words e.g. Change: I am not good at dieting into: I am good at dieting.
  3. Experience the feeling of saying the opposite affirmation. Really take it in and then start behaving as if you have the item/ thing you so desire.

Did you notice that wonderful positive feeling as you imagined having achieved a positive outcome instead of dwelling on the actual negative problem?

When you bring about positive ways of thinking, you immediately begin to notice the growth of that feel good feeling which results in a fantastic achievable result.

This positive feeling will also begin to extend into other aspects of your life. You may well even feel better about the little irritating thing that had been bothering you at the back of your mind. The problem doesn’t feel so bad when reframed.

Contrary to many people’s beliefs, thoughts in general are not beyond your control. You do have the inner power and strength to influence your thoughts to suit your desired outcome. If you allow negative thoughts to envelop you, you take on a victim type of mentality.

On the other hand, if you learn to harness your thoughts and nurture them positively, you have more control as well as feeling at ease with the direction you choose in life.

If there is a troublesome thought bothering you, nip it in the bud before you get a chance to nurture it with more negativity and allow it to grow into something of a burden.

Are you good at successfully diverting your negative thoughts or have you allowed a particularly nasty thought to spread like cancer, thereby, affecting your quality of life?

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What’s in a name?

“…that which we call a rose by any other name would smell as sweet…”

 Shakespeare, Romeo and Juliet

What is a name? How much weight is in a name? How important is an unusual name? How much does a name influence the way other people react or behave towards you?

 Names can make or break you

When I was younger, I used to feel embarrassed about my name. I would get laughed at on many occasions. This shaped my perception on what an ideal name should be. As I grew older and more confident instead of shying away from people who bullied me, I began to take a stand for myself… and you know what? I felt better for it.

Names can take on different meanings for different people. For most of us, our given names were selected by whoever was responsible for us when we were born (usually parents) If you have eccentric parents, it is probably reflected in your beautiful eccentric name which you probably now have to live with for the rest of your life! Sometimes though unusual names can even make you feel special and unique.

If you have a common name, you may not be proud of it and feel common. Whatever your name is, you are well aware of the procedure to change it legally if you are truly unhappy about it. If you haven’t taken that step, ask yourself why you are living with something that is making you unhappy? Perhaps internally you are not really unhappy about your name. You may have come to accept it. Whatever the reason, remember one thing – you are special and unique on the inside and no amount of unusual or common names can change that.

If you have a simple or straightforward name, you have probably never really paid attention to what people with unusual names have to experience. Perhaps you can think before you judge others based solely on their name. Every time you think about laughing at someone’s unusual name, remember that there is a warm person under that label and you risk hurting their feelings by poking fun at their name. That name represents who they are – so please try to respect it.

Your name is the start of what you stand for so be proud of it. (Of course there are exceptions such as when you wish to remain anonymous when you are in the public domain and therefore use an alias in order to keep your privacy). Underneath that name, you are a beautiful complex being – start by valuing yourself. You are more than a name. If you don’t make a stand for yourself, very few others will come to your rescue.

You are the one who gives your name that special persona – so be proud of yourself. There’s more to you on the inside – you know that well.

Have you ever had to face problems in life because of an unusual name?

Have you experienced people judging you simply because of the name you have?

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Waiting

They told me to move on and I showed them I had. I pretended to smile, but the knife had cut deep. I am still waiting. For surely one day you will come home, back to me, where you belong.

I get on with the daily chores of living and there is no sign of you. Not yet anyway. The children will be home soon so I must get their supper ready. I am waiting…

I see you on the street walking hand in hand with another. You walk on by, barely noticing me. I feel hurt and vow to move on. But when I get home I choose to wait.

Nobody really understands the deep internal pain. They just tell me to move on and yet nobody shows me how. So you see I am still waiting.

The children are teenagers now, living a life almost independently of their own. They never mention you anymore as neither do I. But in my heart, still I am waiting…

Each night, when everyone has retired and gone away or I come home from a hard day’s work, I cry myself to sleep because … you see I am still waiting.

I hear your laughter ringing in my ears each time I think of you, along with the tears. The words you used to say linger in my mind still, right to this day as I am waiting.

It wasn’t so long ago that we used to stay out late and have fun filled evenings of pure delight. The memories have stayed with me this long as if it were yesterday.

Tired and withered … I am still awake. Too much effort to keep this smile plastered on my face. I am a grandparent at 58. If only you would come my way … I’ll just wait.

When they ask me how I am, I say I am fine. I know it’s mad when I look at this empty space beside me and I think of the good times we had …I am still waiting.

My future lays optimistically in front of me, they say, full of wonder and glory but I know I will still be waiting… because you see, one day, you will come back to me…

That’s why I’ll just wait…because as you left me all those years ago, that’s what you told me to do … and because I have spent my entire life waiting and I don’t know what else there is to do… so it’s best to just wait…

By Ms April Showers

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