Positive Thoughts verses Reality

The Reality of Perception Quote

The Reality of Perception Quote

Positive thoughts verses reality is actually another way of saying positive thoughts verses negative thoughts. Many a time negative minded people hide behind the guise of being brutally honest because they only want to face the harsh reality. These people would usually enjoy ripping a good idea before it can ever take off. They love to pull apart and scrutinise something. In fact, anything to avoid the bitter disappointment they hold themselves against. It makes them feel good that other people are failing miserably or do not measure up to their critical analysis in any way.

Whenever I come across positive thoughts articles, they always seem to be accompanied by some type of so called “realistic” comments at the end. Usually, by reading the article I feel somewhat optimistic about improving my life. I find generally that when I think positive I behave positively. But by the time I get to the negative comments cross questioning the article, I feel a little annoyed. I think – can’t these people just try to understand the writer instead of dampening the spirit with their dark thoughts on their personal version of reality?

In fact what these negative thinking people fail to realise is that reality is in essence an entirely personal perception which is subject to change depending on the mood and frame of mind you are in. If you are inclined towards a negative way of thought, you will naturally take the stance that reality can be harsh. Usually these type of people also suffer from ill health brought about due to anxiety and stress. They choose to focus and linger on negative aspects, instead of noticing the negative and focusing on ways of improving this.

For the positive person – their reality is brighter and happier because that is how they naturally paint their life. I, for one, want to remain optimistic about things and do not really appreciate being reminded of another person’s impression of a grim reality. If I focus on the grim reality like a used to do sometimes, my inner feelings give way to fear just waiting to find an escape route. I choose to stay hopeful instead of fearful.

So the external events will happen as they do. It is my interpretation of these events which will determine whether it was a good or bad event. I can write something nasty off as a learning experience or sit and cry over it. I know what I would rather choose but I suppose the realists will sit a moan about it.

If you have a choice would you rather live in a bubble of happiness oblivious to problems which can be resolved with a happier frame of mind and in a more creative way or would you rather sit in the dark black hole which affects your thoughts negatively.

It becomes a habit to think and perceive the way we do. So try to changing your personal perception is no easy task for sure. Becoming challenging with our thought process and perception is one of the hardest things we have to do. But you don’t have to give in to the negative way of thinking. You can speak back to it and even reassure yourself that things are not all doom and gloom.

Check some of my posts about overcoming negative thought processes which usually have an element of fear associated with them.

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Top 10 Words of Wisdom by Gandhi

Mahatma Gandhi, a lawyer by profession, needs no introduction. One of the greatest and most inspirational leaders of his time, he was inclined towards a peaceful movement during a time of great upheaval and fear. India’s independence is closely tied to his quite unique style of persistent campaigning. He is a legend in his own right and as such his teachings hold true at all levels of humanity. Here are some of his well known quotes:

Top 10 Words of Wisdom from Gandhi Image

Top 10 Words of Wisdom from Gandhi Image

  1. Be the change that you wish to see in the world

Indeed we are only able to change ourselves. So we can only make the change we want to see in the world within ourselves and we will see this change reflected back to us. This is quite a powerful observation which we only fully begin to understand as we become mentally mature.

  1. What you think, you become

The most important aspect is to focus on the seed planted as a thought, because this is what you allow to grow into fruit. Think positive and something positive will grow. Dwell on the negative and that problem will surely grow. Focus on the image you want to see as a result of your thoughts and that image is more likely to become a part of your physical realm.

  1. Where there is love there is life

It is the emotion of love which keeps the heart of humanity pumping. As long as there are people who show love, humanity will keep going strong. Love overcomes hatred and other negative emotions. Negative emotions of course are usually the seeds which create an ill state of mind, body and soul. Love is one of the main ingredients of a healthy long life.

  1. Learn as if you’ll live forever

“Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever.” This quote encapsulates the passion of life and humanity’s quest and thirst for knowledge and learning. We continue to strive and become our best through the state of learning. Stagnate and we may as well give up altogether. Life is about change and you can help it along with the right type of knowledge which when coupled with life experience, eventually becomes wisdom.

  1. Your health is your real wealth

Have you ever suffered from even slight pain of any kind? When you experience suffering of any kind, you suddenly realise the true value of your health. So appreciate whatever good health you have, even in times when everything around you is mundane.

  1. Have a sense of humour

Whatever type of humour you have, you need it to get through life. Don’t take yourself too seriously because chances are that very few other people do. Do you want to go through life with smiles and laughter ringing in your ears or a straight face and tears?

  1. Your life is your message

What sort of message are you portraying to the world? Is this the message you really want to send out and are you being honest and true to your value system? Do you in essence believe in honesty but revert to lies for whatever reason? Even if they are white lies they are still lies. Is that how you want to be remembered? It is worth remembering that other people can eventually see through those lies. Live your life with integrity and you will see it reflected back to you and that is how you will be remembered.

  1. Action expresses priorities

You may think something is important in your life but if you are only paying lip service to what you think is important then think again. Pay close attention to the areas in your life which you are motivated to take action. Those are actually the most important priorities to you on an inner level and that is why you take those actions.

  1. Our greatness is being able to remake ourselves

As a species, we are extremely resilient when it comes down to it and have the ability to survive much adversity. When we feel broken, this is an opportunity for us to re-mould into something more beautiful and aim towards a better self. Much like when a caterpillar changes into a butterfly. Can you ever imagine that a simple thing such as a caterpillar would ever turn into something of great beauty as the butterfly and to be able to fly as well! Or even the ugly duckling becoming the beautiful swan!

    10. Find yourself in the service of others

When our mind focuses on helping other people, strangely, our own needs get met as well. We get back what we put into humanity as a whole. It has now also been shown by various studies that people who focus on others are generally happier in life. So allow other people to share in your happiness by helping them where you can.

These ten suggestions are just a stepping stone towards the foundations of a basic value system of humanity. Even if we apply some of these principles, our lives become enriched at a deeper level.

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20 Steps on How to Succeed with People by Paul McGee

20 Steps to Success with People

20 Steps to Success with People

Recently I read a fantastic no nonsense and thoroughly straightforward book by Paul McGee entitled “How to Succeed with People”. It was such a lovely,easy read and before I knew it I had reached the finish line! I would like to share with you some of the basic points which Paul makes and which resonated well with my evolving into a more confident and well motivated person.

All this despite the fact that I have been a recluse most of my life and even my daughter has described me as “lacking social manners!” I tried to argue this point but to no avail…anyway on a practical note lets go on to read about….

How to be a People Magnet

Remarkably easy ways to engage, influence and motivate almost anyone:

1. People Cannot be Fixed.

In many cases we can only support or help people but we cannot fix them. Even though many of us would love to fix other people, we can only change and moderate our own thinking and behaviour. At best we are able to influence people, not fix them.

2. SAD Self Awareness Deficiency Syndrome

I can instantly relate with this. We as individuals cannot accurately assess our own self-awareness simply because this area highlights the lack of self-awareness. We can however assess the feedback we receive from others and decide where we can improve ourselves.

3. Some People won’t Change

Or refuse to change as the case may be. You just have to accept this and also I think we can decide to ask ourselves, “Am I willing to change?”

4. Intelligent People do Stupid Things

Yes this is true as intelligence has little to do with our actions. When many of us are drowned is stressful situations, we can have a tendency to revert to old behaviour which does not serve us well and can in fact hinder our progress.

5. You Get What You Tolerate

If you put up with bad behaviour you get back continued bad behaviour. As individuals we can set the standard of acceptable behaviour we choose to tolerate. Otherwise it is easy to become a victim to bad treatment from other people.

6. Humiliation is for Amateurs

Humiliating other people is certainly an unacceptable form of feedback. Usually those who chose to humiliate are insecure themselves, lacking the ability to give a fellow human the respect they deserve. Or in some instances the humiliating person may lack the social skills needed to interact suitably.

7. Being Nice Won’t Always Work

Sometimes you have to put your foot down. When we are nice all the time to everyone, we can easily be taken advantage of in which case you have to be blunt and protect yourself against the not so good people out these.

8. It Takes Two to Tango

Take responsibility for your actions and behaviour because it is not always the fault of the other person. Ask yourself what you may have said or done to produce the reaction you are receiving from the other person or what difficult situation that person may be feeling at that given moment.

9. No Investment Always Guarantees No Return

Don’t expect something if you have not invested in anything. If you want a good return then you must be prepared to invest your time and effort at the very least to get a return of any kind.

10. Set High but Realistic Expectations

Be real and combine this with your high expectations and dreams. If you set too high expectations you are in actual fact setting yourself up for failure.

11. Let Sleeping Dogs Lie

Sometimes you just have to let things be the way they are and not disturb. Weigh up if it is worth wasting your energy on something not quite worthwhile.

12. Attitude Matters

Yes it does and you will know this for certain if you have been reading this blog on a regular basis! Go type in attitude in the search box!

13. Let Go of the Need to be Right

It is preferable and tempting to be right but do you really need to prove this point? If you are right  and you know you are right, does it always matter that the rest of the world needs to know this?

14. Treat People the Way They Want to be Treated

Believe it or not, it is not the wish of everyone to be treated as you wish to be treated. Of course the basic aspects such as kindness to others are universal but needless to say treating other people differently is due to each person’s individual preferences differing considerably from one another.

15. Get Involved in other People’s Worlds

Getting involved in the world of another person takes you away from your own issues and problems. It also allows you to connect with the other person at their level and not only to understand them better but to be able to sympathise when they experience difficulties.

16. Learn to use Constructive Criticism

It is very easy to offer advice and be critical of others but instead of hurting the feelings of others learn to use tactful approaches. Criticism can be positive feedback when it is constructive. Any other form tends to only hurt people.

17. Listen to Other People

This is good communication skill and helps other people to get along with you better. By listening you show respect and understanding. You are in a better placed to make informed decisions simply because you understand and know what is going on around you.

18. Make People feel S.P.E.C.I.A.L

Each initial stands for something significant which is self explanantory: 1. Serve, 2. Personalised, 3. Encourage,      4. Courtesy, 5. Interest, 6. Appreciation, 7. Listen.

19. Reframe Failure

This can be done with a spin on words. Instead of stating that you have failed something which only serves to fuel the downward spiral towards depression and hopelessness, try reframing the failure in terms of what has been learnt from the mistake. What can be improved next time?

20. Speak in Clarity

Engage, influence and motivate. These are very powerful 3 little words indeed. Engaging an audience with sincerity, integrity and honesty is only as easy as you allow it to be. These aspects are all inter-related.

Paul McGee’s 20 steps towards succeeding with people is from his book “How to Succeed with People” which is published by Capstone. Read the book to find out the suggestions he makes for carrying out these 20 steps successfully.

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