Finding Happiness Through Other People

I came across the following article about finding happiness through other people, on twitter and found it useful in connection with my current research in the field of happiness (more of these blog posts to feature in the near future).

Happiness Balloons

Happiness Balloons

The Happiness Experiment:

50 people were asked to enter a room filled with balloons. They had an unexpected surprise.

Once a group of 50 people was attending a seminar. Suddenly the speaker stopped and decided to do a group activity. He started giving each one a balloon. Each one was asked to write his/her name on it using a marker pen. Then all the balloons were collected and put in another room.

Now these delegates were let in that room and asked to find the balloon which had their name written, within 5 minutes. Everyone was frantically was frantically searching for their name, colliding with each other, pushing around others and there was utter chaos.

At the end of 5 minutes no one could find their own balloon. Now each one was asked to randomly collect a balloon and give it to the person whose name was written on it. Within minutes everyone had their own balloon.

The speaker began – exactly this is happening in our lives. Everyone is frantically looking for happiness all around, not knowing where it is.

Our happiness lies in the happiness of other people. Give them their happiness; you will get your own happiness. And this is the purpose of human life.   

Needless to say then, happiness is all around us, if we choose to see it. It is all framed in the way that we interact with other people and our thought patterns. No doubt this small but rather significant experiment got me thinking about the impact of these findings in relation to our daily lives.

This experiment also reminded me of the famous story about the long spoons and the Hell and Heaven, many years ago which goes like this:

Difference between Heaven and Hell

A man was curious about the difference between hell and heaven, so he was first taken to hell and what he observed was that there were tables of food and people condemned to hell sat at the tables were given spoons which were much too long to feed themselves with. The man observed that these people continued to try to feed themselves with a lot of difficulty and suffered from starvation.

When the man was led to heaven, he observed that the setting was exactly the same as hell but the atmosphere was different. The people seated in heaven had spoons which were also much too long for them to feed themselves.

But the main difference he observed between the two identical settings was that in hell the individuals were selfishly attempting to feed themselves whereas in heaven the people figured that the spoons were much too long to reach their own mouth so instead these heavenly creatures indulged each other by using the length of the spoon to feed the nearest person they could reach. This way each and every single one of them could enjoy the wonderful bounties which lay before them.

Both of the above narratives are classic examples of finding happiness through the giving of happiness to other people. When we spread this wonderful form of positive energy, we feel rejuvenated and happy within ourselves, especially when we see another person’s face light up with the joy given by us.

It is so easy to irk other people and to make them angry, pointing out negative and critical aspects about them by making uncalled for judgments. However it takes time, effort and creativity to make another person smile. Sometimes just a smile from you can go a long way in this process.

Initially, I too, was looking for that balloon with my own name on it before realising that making other people happy makes our inner souls feel happy in return. Little acts of kindness towards other people almost on a daily basis do in fact make a huge difference in experiencing huge impacts of happiness within your inner soul.

On a personal level, I thought I had found happiness by separating from my ex-partner and diving deep into activities and things I believed I had neglected and were the core of my deeper happiness. I went from loving a family to becoming single and initially lonely all because I believed my inner needs were not being met. I had become so used to living a life of a single person I often forgot that sometimes singletons can become rather self-centred and selfish as they do not have another person to focus on as well as themselves.

So the next time you are with family and friends ask yourself: “How can I help this person?” instead the self-centred question of “What am I getting out of this?” When you are attentive to the needs of other people, that feeling of goodness spreads all over you and makes you feel that you have done the right thing. What is the psychology behind this feeling of goodness? Well that’s a whole new blog post!

In the meantime, enjoy making people who are important to you and around you, happy in many different creative ways and you will share the delight in this too…. try it before you knock it!

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Universal Declaration of the 30 Basic Human Rights

“Human Rights” has become a well-known and popular term over the years. Since coming into effect by the United Nations in 1948 the Universal Declaration of the Human Rights Act has been referred to often and in many a context. But sadly many of us choose to remain ignorant of our basic rights as human beings. Knowing your rights allows you to safeguard yourself against all types of abuse as well as taking the protection of other people quite seriously.

Declaration of Human Rights Image

Declaration of Human Rights Image

The 30 Basic Human Rights:

We all have 30 basic human rights, according to the Universal Declaration of Human Rights, created by the United Nations in 1948 to provide a global understanding of how to treat individuals. Despite many stories of criminals abusing the rights act, the 30 basic human rights were initially created to provide a framework on how we should all treat others as well as having an expectation that we ourselves should be treated with the same respect as we give to each individual person or community.

Your behaviour towards other people is regulated by this list of rights and other people are expected to behave respectfully and kindly towards you too.

The Human Rights List:

Article 1: You have the right to freedom and for others to treat you with this respect as well as for you to treat others with respect for their freedom.

Article 2: You have the right to be treated equally despite differences in religion, culture, gender or skin colour etc.

Article 3: You have a right to life and to live in safety as well as with freedom

Article 4: You have the right to never be treated as a slave and neither should you keep anyone else in servitude

Article 5: You have the right never to be tortured, hurt or treated inhumanly or even degraded as a form of punishment

Article 6: You have the right to be treated equally by Law

Article 7: You are entitled to equal protection by the Law which is the same for everyone and as such should be applied the same way

Article 8: When your rights are not being respected you have the right to seek legal help

Article 9: You have the right not to be unjustly imprisoned or expelled from your Country

Article 10: You have the right to fair and public trials along with everyone else

Articles 11: You have the right to be considered innocent until proven guilty

Article 12: You have the right to seek help from the Law should anyone try to harm you. Nobody has the right to violate your home, intercept your correspondence or to bother you and your family without a valid reason

Article 13: You have the right to travel as you prefer

Article 14: You have the right to seek protection from your home Country in the event of persecution by asking another country to help you.

Article 15: You have the Right to belong to a Country therefore to have a Nationality. You cannot be prevented from belonging to another Country should you wish

Article 16: You have the right to get married and have a family

Article 17: You have the right to ownership of possessions and property

Article 18: You have the right to practice your religious beliefs and the right to change your religion should you wish in private or public

Article 19: You have the right to your own expression of opinion. You may think and say as you wish as well as having the freedom to impart and receive information

Article 20: You have the right to peacefully participate in meetings and join associations

Article 21: You have the right to participate in the participation or choosing of a Government in your Country

Article 22: You have the right to opportunities to develop your skills and a right to social security

Article 23: You have the right to join a trade union and to work in a safe environment for a fair wage in the choice of your employment

Article 24: You have a right to rest and leisure time

Article 25: You have the right for medical help and a an adequate standard of living which includes your complete well-being such as housing, food and clothing

Article 26: You have the right to a school education which must include the full development of your human personality, including the promotion of understanding and tolerance of all the different communities and groups to enhance peace

Article 27: You have the right to fully participate in your community and cultural life

Article 28: You must respect the “social order” for all the rights to be available

Article 29: You must respect the rights of everyone equally, the public at large as well as the community

Article 30: You have the right to keep the rights in this declaration without the fear of them being removed

Don’t remain ignorant, educate yourself and pass on these facts for other people to live a life of quality instead of having to face needless situations of fear. This type of education is priceless. Using this knowledge well without abusing your rights is one of the key factors in living a balanced life.

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April Poem – An April Day

A Poem for the Month of April

An April Scene

An April Scene

By Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

When the warm sun, that brings
Seed-time and harvest, has returned again,
‘T is sweet to visit the still wood, where springs
The first flower of the plain.

I love the season well,
When forest glades are teeming with bright forms,
Nor dark and many-folded clouds foretell
The coming-on of storms.

From the earth’s loosened mould
The sapling draws its sustenance, and thrives;
Though stricken to the heart with winter’s cold,
The drooping tree revives.

The softly-warbled song
Comes from the pleasant woods, and colored wings
Glance quick in the bright sun, that moves along
The forest openings.

When the bright sunset fills
The silver woods with light, the green slope throws
Its shadows in the hollows of the hills,
And wide the upland glows.

And when the eve is born,
In the blue lake the sky, o’er-reaching far,
Is hollowed out and the moon dips her horn,
And twinkles many a star.

Inverted in the tide
Stand the gray rocks, and trembling shadows throw,
And the fair trees look over, side by side,
And see themselves below.

Sweet April! many a thought
Is wedded unto thee, as hearts are wed;
Nor shall they fail, till, to its autumn brought,
Life’s golden fruit is shed.

Poem by Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

April Showers

April Showers

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