The Secret Reasons Men Argue

An extract from “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus” by John Gray from the male perspective:

The Hidden Reason He is Arguing 

  1. “I don’t like it when she gets upset over the smallest things I do or don’t do. I feel criticized, rejected and unaccepted.”
  2. “I don’t like it when she starts telling me how I should do things. I don’t feel admired. Instead I feel like I am being treated like a child.”
  3. “I don’t like it when she blames me for her unhappiness. I don’t feel encourages to be her knight in shining armour.”
  4. “I don’t like it when she complains about how much she does or how unappreciated she feels. It makes me feel unappreciated for the things I do for her.”
  5. I don’t like it when she worries about everything that could go wrong. I don’t feel trusted.”
  6. “I don’t like it when she expects me to do things or talk when she wants me to. I don’t feel accepted or respected.”
  7. I”I don’t like it when she feels hurt by what I say. I feel mistrusted, misunderstood and pushed away.”
  8. “I don’t like when she expects me to read her mind. I can’t It makes me feel bad or inadequate.”

What He Needs Not to Argue

  1. He needs to feel accepted just the way he is. Instead he feels she is trying to improve him.
  2. He needs to feel admired. Instead he feels put down.
  3. He needs to feel encouraged. Instead he feels like giving up.
  4. He needs to feel appreciated. Instead he feels blamed, unacknowledged and powerless.
  5. He needs to feel trusted and appreciated for his contribution to her security. Instead he feels responsible for her anxiety.
  6. He needs to feel to accepted just the way he is. Instead he feels controlled or pressurized to talk and thus has nothing to say. It makes him feel that he can never satisfy her.
  7. He needs to feel accepted and trusted. Instead he feels rejected and unforgiven.
  8. He needs to feel approved of and accepted. Instead he feels like a failure.

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The Wolves Within

The Two Wolves

The Two Wolves

An old grandfather said to his grandson, who came to him with anger at a friend who had done him an injustice… “Let me tell you a story.”

“I too at times, have felt great hate for those who have taken so much, with no sorrow for what they do. But hate wears you down, and does not hurt your enemy. It’s like taking poison and wishing your enemy would die. I have struggled with these feelings many times.”

“It is as if there are two wolves inside me. One is good and does no harm. He lives in harmony all around him and does not take offense when no offense was intended. He will only fight when it is right do so, and in the right way.”

“But…the other wolf…ah! The littlest thing will send him into a fit of temper. He fights everyone, all of the time, for no reason. He cannot think because his anger and hate are so great. It is helpless anger, for his anger will change nothing.”

“Sometimes it is hard to live with these two wolves inside me. For both of them try to dominant my spirit.”

The boy looked intently into his grandfather’s eyes and asked, “Which one wins grandfather?”

The grandfather smiled and quietly said, “The one I feed.”

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September Poem – September Changes

September Image

September Image

September is like no other
It’s days change colour and weather
No other month can say quite the same
For every day, I can feel the change

It’s cool breezes start out warm, 
Changing to cold throughout every storm
The leaves change and fall 
As the Summer leaves and Autumn kisses us all

September maidens feel the change
Like the blue of the sky
Yet the colour so deep
Unbelievable beauty

Maidens fall throughout and watch
Each raindrop changing through colours so fast
Yet one streak remains the same 
Of that wonderful sapphire rain.

September, unlike any other 
Holds you tight, in any weather. 
Changes come, no matter where you go

North and you’ll get stormy snow
South and feel the heat of summer coming
September does this, no matter what.
Change lives within, Nothing to stop

September is beautiful 
And awesome all the same
It’s hope for the future and the change
Comes swiftly as we sweep away

The Summer ends and the Autumn begins
Change is all around
With one maiden leaving 
And yet, another comes

Born into the world
Of wonderful September
The sapphire skies live on 
Throughout this wonderful September 

By Jessica Millsaps

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