Project to Happiness by Robert Lumsden

Be Happy

Be Happy

Happiness is something we all aspire to become but for those who allow the stresses of everyday life to take over their mind they will find the following extract useful from 23 Steps to Success and Achievement by Robert Lumsden.

In this section of the book, step 19, entitled Project to Project outlines reasons and benefits of keeping your mind occupied with a useful project in your life… so happy reading:

“One of the secrets of happiness is to keep busy. To launch out upon one project after another, to be planning the next before the current one is finished – this is the path to satisfying living.

Especially is the above true when we do things we really like doing. Perhaps you say, “I like doing nothing.” The author does too, but you will agree that you have enjoyed greatest satisfaction when you have been busily occupied with some worthwhile project. See to it, then, that the greatest part of your precious leisure is devoted to doing things, making things, achieving things.

It is normal and natural to be active and creative. During the long aeons of our primitive past, we filled our days with hunting or growing food, treating skins, making weapons or canoes, constructing huts, creating pottery or ornaments, engaging in tribal dances and ceremonies, placating spirits, making love and fighting,

Many modern day needs are met with little effort. It is important therefore that we keep busy by finding worthwhile projects, activities which will make demands on the mind and body, and challenge skill and ingenuity.

Remember, being busy doesn’t destroy peace of mind – it creates it! Idleness and consequent boredom are the trouble-makers. They give us time to smart under imagined grievances, chafe under emotionally-induced aches and pains, wallow in self-pity, and droop in depression and despair.

“There’s no way out of it,” writes R.A. Jackson in his unusual and delightful little book “How to Like People,” “you must have a project going, and work on it. To be a man, to have any balance at all, any fellow feeling, to have something to think and something to say, you must be working on something.”

That is good advice. Be sure to follow it. As you do so, you’ll experience the following benefits:

Your Health will Improve

As you pass your leisure occupied with satisfying projects, your general health will improve. This is because you will be happier due to the satisfying of one of your basic needs – to create. The intricate mechanisms of the body always function smoothly when the mind happy. In other words, you will now be enjoying emotionally-induced health. The killers and the disease generators are the negative emotions like jealousy, resentment, hate, envy, pessimism, worry; but you have little time, energy or desire for these when you are busy with a project.

Your Mind will keep Alert

Your most treasured possession cannot deteriorate when is kept busy grappling with project after project. Consider what is involved.

First conceiving the idea, whether it’s building a shed, making a swimming pool, raising money for charity, improving your home, painting a picture, writing a book, spring cleaning, learning a language or raising a prize chrysanthemum.

Second, the planning of the project: how long it will take, how to go about it, where to work, what materials to use, how much it will cost.

Third, the actual accomplishment of the project: wrestling with problems which arise, reading the necessary books, acquiring new skills, imposing your will on matter, and making yourself competent if not perfect.

All these make demands on mental powers and help to improve their quality.

You See Things in Truer Perspective

Doing things you like doing is therapeutic in the extreme. You face life’s problems so much more sanely and surely when you have plenty of recreational activity. Boring chores, heart-breaking duties, daily tasks, never seem quite so bad when you return to them after a spell on a satisfying project. You see then that woes and afflictions and duties are only a part of life. There is spring as well as winter.

What is more, keeping busy on a project helps you to recover from life’s calamities. While hands and mind are busily employed, wounds heal. Time carries out its blessed therapy, and self-pity is kept at bay. So next time life hurts you, turn to some absorbing project without delay.

You are Easier to Live With

The joys of creativity will shed a golden aura over your whole personality. You will be less irascible, better balanced, more fun-loving, more relaxed. Achievement and genuine effort will make you feel rightly proud of yourself, and self-respect, as pointed out elsewhere, makes it easier to like others. A virtuous circle is initiated. And of course, your very achievements will also earn you respect.

Keeping busy with projects increases your zest for living; it will put a sparkle in your eye and a spring in your step. You’ll always have something to talk about, something to hurry home to, something to anticipate.

Another welcome by-product is increased self-confidence. You become a smiler and a winner. You fall in love with life.

Examine your present way of living. Are you a project person? What are you working on now? What do you plan to do next? If you cannot give positive answers, get launched on some project with the minimum delay. Once you have tasted the joys of project-living, you will adopt it as a way of life and never depart from it.

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8 Rules for Good Listening by David Preston

L.I.S.T.E.N

L.I.S.T.E.N

Listening is by no means an easy skill. It is something which has to be worked on continuously and can be improved and developed further in many ways. Below is an extract for the 8 rules of good listening by David L. Preston from the book “365 ways to be your own Coach, published by HOW TO BOOKS.

Which of these do you already do naturally? Which do you need to practice and improve?

  1. Make Time and be Patient:

This is the only way you can show respect and be fully present. Stop what you’re doing and focus your full attention on listening and observing.

  1. Take Responsibility

Take responsibility for making sure you understand their full meaning. If you don’t hear first time, ask then to repeat it. If you don’t understand, ask. If necessary, keep checking until you’re sure you’ve understood.

  1. Show that you are Listening

Let them know they’ve been heard. Memorise this useful mnemonic: SOFTEN:

Smile and project your warmth

Adopt an Open posture (e.g. uncrossed arms and legs)

Lean towards them and Face them squarely

Use Touch (where appropriate)

Make Eye contact (but don’t stare). Appropriate eye contact inspires a feeling of trust and closeness

Nod your head to signify understanding and/or approval

Do these in a non-threatening manner. For example, touching another person can be a gesture of support, but it can also be misinterpreted. Similarly, while appropriate eye contact inspires a feeling of trust and closeness, prolonged eye contact can be disconcerting. Hold your gaze for long enough to acknowledge the other (three to four seconds is quite sufficient), but not so long to intimidate. A useful tip is to gaze at the bridge of the nose rather than straight into the eyes – it’s much less intimidating.

  1. Don’t Interrupt

Don’t interrupt unless to ask a brief question to ensure you’ve really understood. In the early days of telecommunication it was impossible to speak and listen at the same time when talking on the telephone, and it’s no different today if both parties are listening well. If you catch yourself interrupting, stop immediately, apologise, and invite them to continue.

Try this: When the speaker has finished talking count to three and wait before replying. This way you know they’re not just stopping to take a breath.

  1. Learn to read Body Language

Listen with your ears and your eyes. The human body is capable of transmitting over half a million signals, many of them subconsciously. The face alone can produce over a quarter of a million different expressions. A shrug of the shoulders, for instance, or a dismissive wave of the hand can express far more than words.

We are all continually telegraphing out thoughts, attitudes, feelings and intentions non-verbally. Here are some clues:

  • Eyes looking down or away – self-consciousness or guilt
  • Raised eyebrows – disbelief
  • Rubbing the nose or pulling the ears – they don’t understand, even if they say they do
  • Hand touching the mouth- anxious or trying to deceive you
  • Folded or crossed arms – nervous or shut off from you (or feeling cold!)
  • Hands on hips or active gesturing – aggression
  • Tapping on the desk or chair – nervousness or impatience
  • Tremor in voice – nervousness
  • Shrugging the shoulders – indifference to what you say
  • Facing you squarely, full height, smiling, head forward – confidence

Beware: Body language is not universe – different cultures have their own gestures and ignorance can inadvertently result in offence.

  1. Focus on the Content

Ignore extraneous factors, such as appearance, dress sense, accent, choice of words, grammar, etc. Even if you find their language or ideas distasteful or offensive, keep listening. They won’t open up to you if they think you’re being prudish or condemning.

  1. Check the accuracy of what you have heard

This reassures the other person that you have indeed been listening. There are two ways to do this: First put what you’ve heard into your own words and subtly feed it back to the speaker. For example:

  • You feel… because… e.g. “So you feel worried because you haven’t heard from your mother for several weeks”
  • “What I understand you to be saying is…”
  • “Let me make sure I understand you clearly…”

Alternatively, reflect back what you heard in different words:

  • “So you don’t see much of a future in this job…”
  • “So you don’t think the scheme will work…”
  • “It seems to me that you don’t think the relationship will last…”

If you’re still not clear, ask directly for clarification.

  • “I’m sorry, I’m not sure I understand. Could you please explain…”

If this is a new skill for you, practise until you are confident you can do it without sounding like a mimic.

Secondly ask open ended questions such as:

  • Tell me more about…
  • How do you mean?
  • In what way?

Open-ended questions keep the other person talking and encourage them to explain themselves fully.

  1. Learn to cope with Silence

Most people find silence uncomfortable. Good listeners resist the tendency to jump in when the other person stops talking. During periods of silence the speaker’s mind is still active and often moments of profound insight take place. Shut up and be patient, no matter how disconcerting it feels.

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Digestive System of the Human Body

Digestive System of the human body is perhaps the most recognized part of all of the body systems as it entails knowledge about food intake – something we are all aware of. The digestive system consists of a group of organs which work together to convert food into energy and extract nutrients to feed the body as well as to excrete waste material.

The human body needs to digest food and use the energy so that it is able to function efficiently, repair itself and remain healthy.

Digestive System of the Human Body

Digestive System of the Human Body

The major physiology functions taking place within the digestive system are as follows:

Ingestion: This is quite simply the intake of food through the mouth. The amount of food in the mouth is an indication of how much the body can handle at any given time.

1. Secretion: About 7 litres of fluid is secreted by the body each day and include saliva (serves to moisten dry food), mucus (forms a protective barrier and lubricant within the GI tract), enzymes (breaks down protein, carbohydrates and lipids into smaller parts), bile (break down large lipids) and hydrochloric acid (digests food chemically and kills bacteria in the food).

2. Mixing and Movement: 3 main processes are used for this process.

A). Swallowing: The oral cavity including teeth and tongue are used to chew and push food through the pharynx and into the esophagus

B). Peristalsis: A muscular wave of movement helping to move partially digested food down the tract. This movement helps to move the food from the esophagus through the stomach and intestines.

C) Segmentation: This is the gentle squeezing movements of the small intestine to allow for increased absorption of nutrients.

4. Digestion: This is the entire method of breaking down food from the mouth right through the stomach and excretion at the end. In effect two processes are taking place simultaneously and that is the mechanical as well as the chemical breakdown of food. The whole process involves all the body organs are described in the anatomical section below.

5. Absorption: The absorption process takes place in the stomach. Substances which are absorbed directly into the blood stream include water and alcohol. After this the walls of the small intestine absorb much of the nutrients. Finally in the large intestine any remaining water and nutrients mainly vitamins B and K are absorbed before the remaining waste is excreted from the body.

6. Excretion: This is the final part of the digestive system and involves defecation of waste matter. The body needs to remove this waste matter to keep the gut clear from indigestible substances.

The anatomy of the Digestive System consists of the following components:

MOUTH

Another name for the mouth is oral cavity. To aid the intake of food the following parts help: teeth, tongue and the salivary glands. Once the teeth have cut the food into small chunks with the help of the moisture from the saliva, the tongue and together with other muscles help to push the food into the pharynx. The teeth are sharp and grinding and the tongue has taste buds which help to give food the taste and texture we deserve. There are 3 sets of salivary glands which also help with the digestion of carbohydrates. This lubrication is also used by the body throughout the mouth, pharynx and esophagus.

PHARYNX

Better known as the throat, it has the responsibility of passing food from the back of the mouth down to the esophagus. The pharynx plays a vital part in the respiratory system and this is finely balanced between allowing air through the air valve and food through the other one. This is where the divider of the two known as the epiglottis acts as a switch between food valve and the air valve known as the larynx plays a vital role. Occasionally when we experience choking that is when the epiglottis has not made the switch effectively.

ESOPHAGUS

This serves as a connective tube between the pharynx and the stomach. It is constructed of a muscular tube. The role of the esophagus is to push the food into the stomach and the bottom part known as the cardiac sphincter keeps the esophagus closed thus preventing food from escaping the stomach.

STOMACH

The location of the stomach is on the left side of the abdominal cavity, near the diaphragm. As a muscular sac, the role of the stomach is to act much like a storage tank while the body has time to digest large meals properly. The hydrochloric acid combined with the digestive enzymes break down the food further within the stomach itself to help digestion.

SMALL INTESTINE

In the form of a hose and taking up most of the physical space in the abdominal cavity, the small intestine forms part of the lower gastrointestinal tract. As a coiled long thin tube, but with the ridges and folds allowing for more area space, the role of this intestine is to maximize the absorption of nutrients in the food during this stage of digestion.

LIVER AND GALLBLADDER

Weighing 3 pounds and triangular in shape, the liver, located to the right of the stomach, has many different functions. As the second largest organ of the body its main function is to produce and secrete bile into the small intestine.

By comparison the smaller pear shaped gallbladder has the role of storing and recycling excess bile from the small intestine in order for reuse in the digestion of forthcoming meals.

PANCREAS

The pancreas is connected to the duodenum from the head end and the tail end pointing to the abdominal cavity. In order to complete the chemical digestive process of food, the pancreas secretes digestive enzymes into the small intestine. The length is 6 inches and it is short and lumpy in appearance.

LARGE INTESTINE

This is a longer and thicker tube than the small intestine and wraps around parts of the smaller intestine. This part of the digestive system contains symbiotic bacteria which helps the break-down of waste to help absorb the remainder of the nutrients. It also absorbs water. What is left is the waste called faeces which exits through the anal canal.

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