Power of Acceptance by Annemarie Postma

The Power of Acceptance, published by Watkins Publishing is a lovely book written by a fantastic lady named Annemarie Postma. An extract from the section “stop working on yourself” from this book highlights a wonderful feature about how we are complete beings. We just need to relax and accept ourselves just as we are.

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The Guru in You:

Only you can do it. There is no one outside of yourself who will bring you freedom or who holds the key to your happiness. There is no magic solution outside of yourself. The only solution is to become hyper-aware of what your unconscious motivation is. The only really meaningful question to ask here is: what really keeps me from doing something pleasant, something to ensure that I am satisfied with my life? To find out, it is essential that you learn to have a closer examination of your inner convictions, feelings and thought patterns.

Difficult? Yes! Mostly because those inner convictions, the ones that cause most of the misery, happen unconsciously. Therefore you cannot work on them directly, even if wanted to. It’s just up to you to become aware of them. But this is the beginning of an interesting and exciting journey. Because as soon as you involve the unconscious with your current reality, you will start to see the cause-and-effect connections. As soon as you involve your outside world with your inner world, you will start to look deeper into and recognize the meaning behind the appearance of everything that you find on your life’s path and, in return, the cause of your pain and feelings of loss. You will start to see that everything you experience as painful and annoying is the cause of your (unconscious) inner contradictions. And that a conflict outside of yourself always points to a conflict inside. There is inner resistance somewhere, where something doesn’t flow. So you become more conscious when you begin to see what the cause is and what the effect is. There is no development without taking on the personal confrontation with yourself. You don’t need anything or anyone to do this – no workshops, coaching sessions, rites or ceremonies, spiritual illusionists, ego-tourists or someone who strokes your ego. You only need one true and honest guru and that is you.

Summary:

  1. The only way to regain joy and vitality in your life is to relax into the reality of the current moment and by embracing the aspects of yourself that you think shouldn’t or cannot be there.
  2. After all, you are a whole human being. Your “I” can govern your thoughts and say, “This part of you is allowed to be here and this part isn’t. But you aren’t half of yourself, you are whole.
  3. That wholeness cannot disappear. It is what you’ve always been and what you always will be. It’s your true nature. You don’t become whole by becoming perfect, but by allowing yourself to be a whole human being.

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Happy International Women’s Day

Just a few words to wish all my readers a lovely and happy international women’s day. Enjoy this day to celebrate the wonderful uniqueness of being a woman.

Women's Day - 8th March

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Be proud of the woman you have become.

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Project to Happiness by Robert Lumsden

Be Happy

Be Happy

Happiness is something we all aspire to become but for those who allow the stresses of everyday life to take over their mind they will find the following extract useful from 23 Steps to Success and Achievement by Robert Lumsden.

In this section of the book, step 19, entitled Project to Project outlines reasons and benefits of keeping your mind occupied with a useful project in your life… so happy reading:

“One of the secrets of happiness is to keep busy. To launch out upon one project after another, to be planning the next before the current one is finished – this is the path to satisfying living.

Especially is the above true when we do things we really like doing. Perhaps you say, “I like doing nothing.” The author does too, but you will agree that you have enjoyed greatest satisfaction when you have been busily occupied with some worthwhile project. See to it, then, that the greatest part of your precious leisure is devoted to doing things, making things, achieving things.

It is normal and natural to be active and creative. During the long aeons of our primitive past, we filled our days with hunting or growing food, treating skins, making weapons or canoes, constructing huts, creating pottery or ornaments, engaging in tribal dances and ceremonies, placating spirits, making love and fighting,

Many modern day needs are met with little effort. It is important therefore that we keep busy by finding worthwhile projects, activities which will make demands on the mind and body, and challenge skill and ingenuity.

Remember, being busy doesn’t destroy peace of mind – it creates it! Idleness and consequent boredom are the trouble-makers. They give us time to smart under imagined grievances, chafe under emotionally-induced aches and pains, wallow in self-pity, and droop in depression and despair.

“There’s no way out of it,” writes R.A. Jackson in his unusual and delightful little book “How to Like People,” “you must have a project going, and work on it. To be a man, to have any balance at all, any fellow feeling, to have something to think and something to say, you must be working on something.”

That is good advice. Be sure to follow it. As you do so, you’ll experience the following benefits:

Your Health will Improve

As you pass your leisure occupied with satisfying projects, your general health will improve. This is because you will be happier due to the satisfying of one of your basic needs – to create. The intricate mechanisms of the body always function smoothly when the mind happy. In other words, you will now be enjoying emotionally-induced health. The killers and the disease generators are the negative emotions like jealousy, resentment, hate, envy, pessimism, worry; but you have little time, energy or desire for these when you are busy with a project.

Your Mind will keep Alert

Your most treasured possession cannot deteriorate when is kept busy grappling with project after project. Consider what is involved.

First conceiving the idea, whether it’s building a shed, making a swimming pool, raising money for charity, improving your home, painting a picture, writing a book, spring cleaning, learning a language or raising a prize chrysanthemum.

Second, the planning of the project: how long it will take, how to go about it, where to work, what materials to use, how much it will cost.

Third, the actual accomplishment of the project: wrestling with problems which arise, reading the necessary books, acquiring new skills, imposing your will on matter, and making yourself competent if not perfect.

All these make demands on mental powers and help to improve their quality.

You See Things in Truer Perspective

Doing things you like doing is therapeutic in the extreme. You face life’s problems so much more sanely and surely when you have plenty of recreational activity. Boring chores, heart-breaking duties, daily tasks, never seem quite so bad when you return to them after a spell on a satisfying project. You see then that woes and afflictions and duties are only a part of life. There is spring as well as winter.

What is more, keeping busy on a project helps you to recover from life’s calamities. While hands and mind are busily employed, wounds heal. Time carries out its blessed therapy, and self-pity is kept at bay. So next time life hurts you, turn to some absorbing project without delay.

You are Easier to Live With

The joys of creativity will shed a golden aura over your whole personality. You will be less irascible, better balanced, more fun-loving, more relaxed. Achievement and genuine effort will make you feel rightly proud of yourself, and self-respect, as pointed out elsewhere, makes it easier to like others. A virtuous circle is initiated. And of course, your very achievements will also earn you respect.

Keeping busy with projects increases your zest for living; it will put a sparkle in your eye and a spring in your step. You’ll always have something to talk about, something to hurry home to, something to anticipate.

Another welcome by-product is increased self-confidence. You become a smiler and a winner. You fall in love with life.

Examine your present way of living. Are you a project person? What are you working on now? What do you plan to do next? If you cannot give positive answers, get launched on some project with the minimum delay. Once you have tasted the joys of project-living, you will adopt it as a way of life and never depart from it.

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